Love Poems

This sounds more like a shotgun wedding than a romance.

Hakimi and I had been fast friends since our days at USC Hillel, though he had always been one to drop out of touch for extended periods of time. So it came as only a mild surprise when we learned he was engaged. I say mild because: A) none of us knew he was dating. And Two) we learned the news not from him, but from Rabbi Dov Wagner. Immediately, my friend called him up. “So, two questions for you,” he said casually. “First, a couple of us are getting together. Are you available for dinner Saturday night?” “Of course”, he responded,...

For Wagner, the important thing was approaching the dating arena with the right mindset. “So many young people come up to me and say, ‘Rabbi, I’m dating a non-Jew, but don’t worry – I have no intention of marrying her.’ And it tears me up inside. Why do that to yourself?” In his view, you’re just setting yourself up to get hurt at the end of the relationship and, as a result, become less trusting the next time around. The difference is in the goals. For Hakimi, dating wasn’t an end in itself – it was a means to an end.

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